Love, Sex, & Marriage – Week 2: Suggestions or Guardrails?

Welcome to the C3 Boston podcast! Here is week two of our series called: Love, Sex, & Marriage. This podcast is titled: Suggestions or Guardrails? Pastor Alan Henderson shares about the difference between the suggestions of the world and the guardrails your family and friends provide within relationships.

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“Underrated” Blog by Pastor Allan 

I often wonder if, as Christians, we can tend to overrate the promises of God but underrate the principles God.

Even as I write this I feel I might have just killed someone’s sacred cow.

You see Gods promises preach well and sound great. When you hear scriptures like God shall supply all my needs or one of my favourites knock and it shall be opened and seek and you will find. What about this one, raise your child in the way that they shall go and they will not depart from it. Awesome promises, I believe them and so should you.

It is however easy to get lost in the simplicity of the promise without understanding the principles that act as a foundation on which the promise is built.

I personally know this to be true.

Jessie-Claire and myself, married young, we were 19 and 18 years old living on love.

We had a great first 4-5 years of marriage, travelled, bought homes, had successful careers. But at the 7 year mark our marriage almost fell apart. Something went wrong, did God fail us? Did he break his promise?

The answer is no to both questions. If you looked closely at our lives you would have seen an absence of the principles of God. We had stopped stewarding each other, stopped loving each the way God had commanded us too. God wasn’t Lord of our life, success was, our career’s had become our God. In almost every area, the principles of God were absent. God didn’t fail us; we had failed us. We had to act quickly to change the way we lived our life and in doing so we saw the promises of God flow through our marriage once more and have now celebrated our 13th year as husband and wife and we are still living on love.

It was 4 years ago and I was working with a large consumer goods business as the National Sales Manager for Australia/New Zealand. Earning a significant income. Despite the great income we still barley had enough money to cover all the things we wanted and needed to cover. This frustrated me a lot. I remember calling out to God every night asking for his blessing, reminding him of his promises.

Until one day he reminded me of his principles.

One midweek night, Jessie-Claire and I sat down to do our budget (which we hadn’t done in a while). As we worked through allocating all the spending my jaw begun to drop. I realised we had been spending at times multiply thousands of dollars a month on nothing. By nothing I mean – no tangible purchase. Just wasted money on stuff, but nothing necessary.

I realised that I didn’t have not because I hadn’t asked God. I had not because I stewarded not. I had not because I honoured not. I had not because I hadn’t put God as Lord of my life and made lifestyle decisions that would reflect it.

It didn’t matter how many goals I set or how much I believed or how hard I prayed I was never going to see my dreams and goals realised, while I disregarded the principles of Heaven.

Friends, greatness is not achieved by setting goals or praying a prayer, greatness is achieved by setting disciplines that lead towards your goals.

Every promise from God, is underpinned with principles. It’s when Godly principles become lived out disciplines the promises of heaven are realised.

Let me say that again. Gods promises + Gods Principles + Your Disciplines = Every heavenly promise reflected in your life.

If you want to live a long life then yes honour your parents, it’s a promise from God. But steward your health or your family or you will not see the promise come to pass.

If you want a promotion at work or increase in your business, then yes ask God for what you’re believing for. But if honour, integrity and character are not disciplines in your life you will find it hard to attract opportunity.

The promises of God are real and available, so are his Principles and you can’t have one without the other.

Much love,

 

Allan

Fortune Tellers

“Fortune Tellers” by Pastor Allan Ever wanted to be a fortune teller? To be able to look into the future and see an outcome. What if I told you, you could, we’ll sort of. It’s a little thing called ‘Foresight’ and unlike other superpowers, this is one everyone can use.  Although it’s available to everybody it’s often overlooked. If […]